I'm the kind of person who is either all the way on or all the way off. When the alarm rings in the morning, my eyes spring open and my feet hit the floor. I'm AWAKE!! When I start a new project, I'm 100% in and enthusiastic. I want to sleep, eat and breathe it so I can up to speed on whatever it is, really quickly. So, in these instances, it's great.
But, if we're talking about working a diet/nutrition plan, that's where it becomes not so great. I can be cruising along, no worries. Compliance is great and then all of a sudden, cave to a craving or intentionally make a bad choice, and I start going down the path of "I just ruined 3 weeks of great compliance, might as well eat the whole pizza". Then that choice leads to another which leads to another and I'm off my plan. It's taken time and a lots of failures to realize that I don't have to be all the way on or all the way off. I can just be. There are ebbs and flows that I need to learn to deal with for real change to occur. It's just all part of it.
A really smart man I know (Norman Shub of the Gestalt Institute) says that "ALL CHANGE IS INCREMENTAL". As much as I want to be 100% on, whether its nutrition, workout, whatever, it really isn't realistic to expect that I will hit it all the time. The want can be there. The desire can be there. But if I'm really going to change something, I have to deal with the setbacks and not let the setbacks tank the whole process. If I've eaten the pizza (or ice cream or chips), I need to dust off, and get back on plan at the next meal and not skip meals for the rest of the day/or two (we've all done it) in order to "make up" for what I've done.
Probably one of the best people/sites that I follow is JillfitPhysiques (http://www.jillfit.com). She writes of her past struggles and how she worked it out mentally. Pretty inspiring stuff. Check it out.
So, tonight I had 2 pieces of pizza when I should have had turkey, brown rice and veggies. So tomorrow for breakfast I'll be back on plan...yogurt, fruit and peanut butter. And I'm going to enjoy every bit. No worries. Just learning.