Why is it so hard for us to see ourselves as other see us?
This morning, my daughter came into my bathroom as I was getting ready for work. I was in my underwear putting on my makeup. She looked at me and said "Mom, you could definitely wear a 2-piece this summer". She knows that one of my goals is to be able to wear a 2-piece to the pool again. Ok, I'll admit it, sometimes I think that at 52 my 2-piece days may be over but, then I think, why not?! Well, she wasn't kidding. She meant it. But instead of saying thank you and being happy, I went on to point out all the reasons I couldn't wear a 2-piece. Not one of my prouder mommy moments!
Later in the day, a friend commented about a picture I had posted on Facebook. It was a photo of me wearing one of the Mighty Petunia tees dressed up with a leopard belt, skinny jeans and hot pink heels. She told me how great I looked. What did I say? Something like "oh, you know, everyone looks good in skinny jeans".
Later that evening, my daughter and I were talking about my reactions that day. And she said "Mom, why can't you just say thank you?". Great question. Thank you Lexa.
I'm not used to people noticing what I look like. I'm uncomfortable even telling this story! But, it's a goal of mine now, that when someone pays me a compliment, to say thank you and enjoy the good feeling that comes with the compliment. I'll let you know how it goes.